Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Please Let Me Help You to Help Me
Look, I like you....I like you a lot. You took the time today to ask me how I was feeling. Even though I have been struggling with this illness for years it means a lot to me that you care enough to take the time to ask. So please don't be offended if I quietly push aside your suggestions on a new alternative medicine, a wonderful doctor, or radical treatment.
Its not that I don't want to hear about it, but, you see, I have been through this for many years. Friends and relatives alike have sent links, and clipped articles for me on just this type of thing. Some have been useful, some not so. It is not that I don't want to hear about your idea, it is just that I am a bit tired from a days struggle with my pain and weakness.
I think that I would rather you just talk with me for a bit, but not about me or my illness Instead tell me about your family, your life, good or bad it doesn't matter.
It will help me to escape for a bit, and maybe even put a smile on my face.
At the end of our conversation help me to know that no matter how bad it gets for me, you will always be there ready and willing to do just this, talk.
Thank you also for your offer to help me, I know that you see a lot of very big things you can do for me, but I have found that big projects come with their own cost to my energy and health, and , frankly, I simply cannot handle that right now.
It is the little things that are frustrating me . They sap my energy, and some days just knowing that they are awaiting me when I get home is more than I can handle. It is very difficult to prepare a meal, or do my daily laundry. I don't have the energy some days to get the shopping done, so I may just do with what I have at home. If you could help me with these little things, I would be so grateful, and in the end they will mean so much more to me than any else you could do.
You are a great friend, and I hope that you have not been offended by anything that I have said here. I value you and your help, so please ask me if there is anything that I need, and I will try to put my pride aside to give you an honest answer.